Chalk it up to burying the hatchet.

You've heard the old saying of "bury the hatchet", it means to get over your differences and let them be what it is. Sure, this always sounds like an easier way to settle your differences but what happens when the differences arise again, and you can't just "bury the hatchet"?

At some point in our lives, we will have to have difficult discussions with those that we love. It takes some strong emotional maturity to be able to sit down with someone you love and be able to talk in a mature manner to one another about what is really bothering you. Some people aren't lucky to have an understanding person to talk through feelings and actions with.

Sometimes it is hard to have a safe conversation that won't spiral out of control to an argumentative discussion. Recently I had to have a hard discussion instead of laying out on the table about how I felt, I put the ball in the other persons court and asked them about their thoughts and feelings on our situation. They were sure quick to overlook the issues and chalk it up to "let's bury the hatchet".

Typically, I am not the type of person to shut my mouth and just sweep dirt under the rug, because I have found that you can sweep the dirt under the rug, but it will soon become lumpy, and someone is going to say something about it.

I have had to be the bigger person a lot in different scenarios and have found myself becoming quite tired of having to push my feelings aside to accommodate other's. It sucks being the bigger person, it feels like once again your feelings have been discarded and that nothing you do or say is important and that you're dumb for being so emotional.

For what it's worth sometime, you have to detach yourself for the situation and just let it be what it is. They're cool with treating you like garbage and they almost expect you to be cool with it too and to move on from it. And due to the person, you are, you don't want to further upset anyone so you to act like it was cool that you were treated like garbage and that nothing was resolved in this situation.

In life you have to make sacrifices for relationships that you want to maintain. Sometimes you have to sit with how they made you feel and be ok with it if that is the relationship you want to continue to pursue. You're not always going to agree with everyone in this life but take it for what the argument is worth and decide if you're going to let it continue to fester or just bury the hatchet.

Peace&Love

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